11 Apr The Importance of Staying Light & Acting Child-Like
It’s 12:24 pm, on the Saturday before Easter.
With the sun shining bright through the adjacent window, I’m sitting at the dining room at my parents’ house reading one of my favorite books, Keep Going by Austin Kleon. I cannot recommend the book enough, but I had an epiphany moment during the third chapter, which he titled YOUR REAL WORK IS PLAY.
He mentions how much he enjoys watching his kids play. To them, play is work — they scrunch their noses with deep concentration trying to make something, in their own little world with laser focus on the task at hand.
But what surprised him the most was how his kids approached their best play; it had a sense of lightness and detachment from the results.
They couldn’t care less what the final product looked like, they wanted to do the verb, not have the noun. Kids don’t care about how many likes or shares their drawings or photos get, they just want to create them. They lay in the grass outside because they get joy from doing so, not because the lighting hits just right.
And that’s why I’m writing this article.
I haven’t posted anything in a bit because I’m always quick to blame my other projects that are “higher priority” than doing something I love—writing.
I don’t need to optimize this article for SEO, or overanalyze how this fits my “client avatar” and specific “niche.” In fact, when I get too heavy with my thinking about how something will perform, my work sucks. Or maybe the work is okay, but I’m not satisfied because it didn’t get the response I was expecting.
And for what? Money? Clicks? Validation?
Why can’t we do things because… we enjoy it?
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not against getting compensated for putting out great work that helps people, but I think that should be the by-product of making something we’re proud of. And when you stay light, you’ll probably put out better work anyway.
The same thing happens for my online fitness clients when they’re battling a weight loss plateau. They’re gritting their teeth, dieting stricter, and stressing themselves to the max because the scale just. Won’t. Budge. They want the result so bad that they’re willing to do anything to get it.
Then, some life event happens that forces them to relax (a weekend with friends, mini-vacation, etc). They take their focus away from this goal they’ve been doing everything to achieve, only to reach it once they pointed their attention elsewhere. Physiologically, their body released the water they were holding onto from being in a constant state of stress.
Basically, they cared too much. They were hyper-focused on weight loss instead of nourishing their body for health. Result-oriented instead of process-oriented.
This may seem like a stretch, but in my opinion, they lost their inner child. They didn’t stay light.
Remaining child-like—not childish—about life is something we all need to be reminded of.
The writer Kurt Vonnegut wrote a letter to a group of high school students and assigned them this homework: Write a poem and don’t show it to anybody. Tear it up into little pieces and throw them into the trash can. “You will find that you have already been gloriously rewarded for your poem. You have experienced becoming, learned a lot more about what’s inside you, and you have made your soul grow.” That, said Vonnegut, was the whole purpose of making art: “Practicing an art, no matter how well or badly, is a way to make your soul grow, for heaven’s sake.”
And, well, I don’t think I have much more to add to that. It’s now 1:49 pm and I feel… refreshed. I’m glad I decided to write this, and I hope it helped you some.
This⏤whatever this is that you’re doing⏤doesn’t have to be so serious. Stay light. Play!