Knowing who you don’t want to be is just as important as knowing who you do want to be.
Them: Puts fitness first, life second.
Us: Puts life first, fitness second (or third, fourth, etc.).
Them: Uses their fitness or body as their identity.
Us: Proud of the body we’ve built/are building, but know there’s way more to us than looks.
Them: Announces they’ve stopped eating carbs for this new diet they’re on.
Us: Sips wine and grabs another piece of warm bread.
Them: Ego lifts and struts around with ILS (Invisible Lat Syndrome).
Us: Lifts with intention and considerate towards others in the gym.
Them: Obsesses over the outcome and chasing the next thing.
Us: Prioritizes daily habits and process goals, knowing “enough” will never arrive.
Them: Constantly looking for dopamine hits and unaware of it.
Us: Understands our attention shortcomings, and actively working to improve it.
Them: Lives a “shallow” life of constant gossip, distraction, and doomscrolling the news.
Us: Strives for a “deep” life of meaningful work, intentional leisure, and lifelong relationships.
Them: Has strong convictions around things they don’t understand.
Us: Stands up for what we believe in, but remain open-minded.
Them: Keeps up with the Jones’s and seeks approval.
Us: Ignores the “supposed to’s” in life and lives in-line with our values.
Them: Over-promises, under-delivers.
Us: Under-promises, over-delivers.
Them: Always tries to prove they’re the smartest in the room.
Us: Stays humble, curious, and eager to learn.
Them: Has a scarcity mindset around time and money, thinking they’re “unlucky.”
Us: Has an abundance mindset, creating our own luck.
Them: Blames others, society, or anyone besides themselves.
Us: Takes ownership.
Them: “I can’t believe I did that.”
Us: “I can’t believe I did that. But I’m happy I did.”
Them: Says they’re “just so busy.”
Us: Actively makes time for deepening relationships.
Them: Takes things way too seriously and are guaranteed to be stressed out.
Us: Chuckles at ourselves daily, and understands stress is a prerequisite to a life worth living.
Them: Repeatedly breaks their word.
Us: Keeps promises (to themselves and others).
Them: Gets by.
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